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Beauty tips. We love them, don’t we? Seriously, there’s got to be over a million of them, you’re probably thinking of your favorites now. Me too.

So, what if there was a beauty tip that surpasses them all? A tip that would guarantee you’ll look and feel your very best every single day? You’d want in on it, right? Of course you would!

Well here’s the deal. It isn’t new, in fact, I’m pretty sure you’ve heard of it. Question is, do you use it, or, like many others, do you skip it completely?

TIP: BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU TELL YOURSELF

I’ll bet you didn’t see that one coming. Sounds simple enough I know, but, what does it really mean?

I know you’ve heard the phrase “you are what you eat,” and you understand it to mean you have to think before putting something in your mouth because it will affect your body in either a positive or negative way. The same goes for the things you whisper to yourself.

Things like, “I’m such an idiot,” “I hate the way my nose looks,” “I hate my job,” and the ever popular, “I hate my weight.” When saying these things becomes a habit, you get to the point where you begin to believe it. So much so, you’ll soon find it hard to say “thank you” when someone gives you a compliment. What’s worse, you might even speak aloud the reasons why you didn’t deserve the kind words someone just gave you. Know what happens next? You may never get a compliment from them again.

So why do we do this? It’s simple really. We don’t see ourselves the way others see us. We forget that others “see” who we are beneath the surface. Our humor, our personality, our drive and compassion. The things that really matter. But yet, we hang on to what doesn’t. I didn’t even realize I was doing it until I heard the same words come out of someone else’s mouth; my own daughter’s. Yes, this self deprecating talk is contagious.

We think we keep these thoughts to ourselves, but the lies eventually bleed through it all and whether we know it or not, affects everyone around us. Never forget that we are what we continuously tell ourselves. Let’s break the cycle beginning right now. The next time you receive a compliment, (and you will) limit your response to these 2 words; thank you.

Open your eyes to the beautiful things others see in you. After a while, you’ll see it too!

When was the last time you caught yourself with self-loathing behavior? How did others around you react? Share your story below.